3D SUCCESS

No matter how beautiful a garden is in the beginning, if left unattended it will start having weeds and eventually lose its beauty.  A marriage should never be left to chance or on autopilot. It must be nurtured like a garden. This may not always be easy, but worthwhile if the garden is nurtured by both parties involved. Today, on my second wedding anniversary, I reflect on the key lessons that I have learnt so far since we embarked on this journey with my wife. 1. Understand each other’s Love Language When we got married, my wife would make comments like: “You don’t spend time with me, it's like your phone is more important to you than me.” At the time, I didn’t understand because each time I would knock off from work, I went straight home, and we would spend most of the evening in the same room. We would sit on the same couch and watch TV together for most parts of our evening. I didn’t get why she would say that and for most parts I would just let it go thinking it is just how...

“This was a very exciting and close game, 4-3!” These were the words my wife said as she watched highlights of the Champions League 1 st leg encounter between Real Madrid and Manchester City. Having watched the full game a night before, I remember thinking to myself, exciting game yes, close game-No! City should have buried this game in the 1 st 30 minutes but for missed chances. For my wife though, the 5 minutes highlights was enough to base her overall assessment of the entire game (90 minutes). And to a large degree that is how we base our assessment of the game of life. On the final or outward appearance of things. This can be through pictures or videos presented to us on social media.  The following are the four lessons learned through this interaction: A.     Don’t compare your life based on a small fraction of someone’s else’s life There is a common tendency to evaluate our lives based on the highlights of another person’s life. We compare our ...

  “Before the war, my dream was to play a match with Roger Federer but now the only thing I wish for is to survive.” These were the words echoed by 97-year-old Ukrainian L eonid Stanislavskyi  who happens to be the oldest Tennis player in the world.   Watching events unfold in Ukraine has made me realize how I have taken for granted the things I already have. More especially the basics; food, clothing, shelter and peace. For most of us, when we went to sleep last night, we did not worry about a missile hitting our home, where will be getting our next meal, whether our family and friends are safe elsewhere, or how our life will be if we cross over to a neighbouring country as a refugee. These are the least of our worries! And yet 2 months ago, these were the least of the worries for most people in Ukraine. And now millions of people have fled the country leaving behind everything (houses, cars, businesses, projects, etc) to seek refuge and peace. So rather than...