3D SUCCESS

"How much do you put in your marriage as you prepare  for the wedding day? Do you think about what lies ahead beyond the wedding day? ....... Marriage is not just about the flair and splendor of the wedding day. Wrong perception about marriage has potential to damage or ruin your marriage." These are the words the Pastor opened his marriage blessing talk with as he addressed the soon to be married couple on a nice warm sunny day. He went on to read Ephesians 5:22-33   after which he explained what Marriage is and what it is not. 5 Things that Marriage isn't 1. It's not about Sexual Fantasy: A man should not lust after his wife. It is not about fulfilling those desires. Spouses should not treat each other as sex objects. 2. It's not about the man being the Breadwinner: Men, you need to communicate openly about finances and not allow ego stand in your way. Your wife is your helper, it is about teamwork. 3. It's not about Your Wants and Needs: Learn...

  I recently had a phone conversation with my friend and former classmate from junior to high school. As it had been a while since our last communication, I noticed a significant change in the contents of our verbal chat. The conversations seemed more deeper and probing as rather than talking about the usual gossip and who is doing what it centered on what kind of things we want to do and what motivated the decisions. At one point my friend spoke about how he found the subjects biology and chemistry in high school interesting even though he went on to pursue Accountancy as his career.  “I thought its because you were the best in Math's hence Accountancy was the perfect fit for you?” I questioned.   “Yes, I was good in Math's because I had to work hard to get those results, but I didn’t find it as interesting as I found the sciences.”  He responded. Then I asked him why he pursued Accountancy? He recollected a moment in high school at which one of...

Have you ever found yourself in a situation in which you have to collaborate with others to achieve results? This could be in your marriage, work, business or at school. You may be eager to do your part but with time you begin to realize that others may not be meeting their end of the bargain. As a result, you may feel discouraged and with time start putting in less effort into the project. In a similar vein when the rest of the team seem committed, it is far easier for us to be motivated and put in our best effort.                                              Generally, the attitude people have towards a group activity is mostly affected by how we see those around us execute their roles. However, the bible book of Galatians 6:4 can help us look at things from a different angle. It urges us to evaluate our own efforts and not how others are doing their part. Evalua...